He Cheated & I stayed…
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The Dark Side of Being a Stay-at-Home Wife
Being a stay-at-home wife can feel like a dream come true. I’ve been there—taking care of my family, creating a warm home, and being fully present for my kids. It was a beautiful chapter of my life, and I wouldn’t trade those moments with my children for anything. But here's the hard truth: being 100% financially dependent on someone else puts you in a vulnerable position.
I was a stay-at-home wife and mother, and when my fairytale started to end, I was stuck. I didn’t have an income of my own, no money saved, and no current career. So when my husband cheated, I had no real way out. I stayed longer than I wanted to because I couldn’t afford to leave. And that’s the reality a lot of stay-at-home wives’ face, but nobody talks about this…
We’ve Gotta Talk About Financial Dependence
It’s not about expecting the worst, it’s about being real: depending on your partner for everything is risky. When your food, shelter, and even your children’s well-being is dependent on someone else’s financial and emotional stability, you're not in control of your life. One day everything’s fine, and the next, things can fall apart. And that potentially leaves you and your children with nothing or left fighting for the crumbs you think you deserve from the time you spent in the relationship. I don’t know about you, but I can’t let someone else’s choices determine my future anymore.
Two Things Can Be True at the Same Time
Here’s the thing: we deserve to enjoy the time we spend at home with our families. Whether it’s taking care of kids or just focusing on our household, it’s important. AND we also need to be prepared for the day when things might not go as planned. Life happens. Relationships change. And we owe it to ourselves to be ready for that.
The Solution: Always Have a Plan & Work the Plan
Staying at home and being financially secure aren’t mutually exclusive. We can do both. It may not be easy, but it’s worth it. Have a skill. Start a side hustle. Put some money aside that’s just for you. It’s not about not trusting your partner—it’s about loving yourself enough to protect your future. Too many women are stuck in marriages they want to leave, but they can’t afford to. I talk to women everyday who can’t even scrape together $375 to file for a divorce. That shouldn’t be your story.
Let’s collectively work to solve this problem for ourselves and our daughters. It’s time for us to take control of our lives—whether we’re stay-at-home wives or mothers or working women, we can fix this.
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